Don’t Think Twice It’s Alright

It’s been too long and I’ve been meaning to write but I’m finding it too difficult. Here’s a cover that I didn’t entirely hate my recording of.

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I’m trying online dating

This is a follow on from my previous blog post “So I’m thinking of online dating”. Check it out if you haven’t, or drop me some advice, share some of your own experiences with me. I’d love to hear them.

Yeah I’ve taken a day or two to come around to it and man up, but I’m tired and can’t sleep. This is often the sort of time where I make big decisions, you decide on if that’s sensible or dumb.

I’m going to sift through the massive amount of choices and after a little advice as well as a good amount of comforting from the super friendly author of http://intothebeauty.wordpress.com/. I’m not planning on spending any money here, just put some time into it. I guess I’m as ready as I’ll ever be, time to nut up or shut up!

I’ll probably give updates on some details, though I’m expecting nothing out of this. Who knows? It’s an experience that I haven’t explored before, either way. It’ll be fun getting to know some new people, if we’re not compatible..well..Nothing ventured, nothing gained eh?

As super apprehensive as I am about it, I know I’m going to struggle a hell of a lot writing the little about myself. Wish me luck, I’m going in.

So I’m thinking of online dating

So i’m thinking of online dating, I’m a 21 year old guy. I’m about 3 months out of my most recent relationship, which ended pretty poorly, but no hard feelings. I want to move forward.

I don’t know anyone where I’m living now, at all. No friend groups, I’m not working yet so no casual interaction with anyone whose eye I might be able to catch, or develop a relationship with. Online dating feels like the logical answer, but the notion terrifies me. Not only that, it makes me feel super lonely.

Is it lame and desperate of me at 21 to want to sign up to dating sites and meet people that way? I just want to find the right girl, you know. I’m also pretty daunted at the options, if i just google online dating I could spend the next fortnight signing upto new websites.

I guess what i’m saying is, please help me out here. Will it be a positive experience? Will it be something I look back on and say: “That’s where I found my wife” 

Where should I start? Or should I even start?

I mean, beside this I have a daydream of visiting a coffee shop in my town and bumping into the most beautiful, perfect, available girl. I’ll much more likely find a group of retired women and a lovely, but very married woman, with children.

Anyway, what do you think I should do? I need your advice, internet.

Past, Present and Future

I remember back when I was only fifteen, I had one of my first girlfriends. Our relationship was one of those weird, shy, a lot of text chatting and online chatting. I was into Blink-182 at the time, yeah I was one of those losers, and my band played “All the small things”, for my birthday, she actually left me roses by the stairs (as the lyrics in the song go). I was mortified, to be honest. It’s really funny, I look back and I’d say this girl cared more about me that any others have, in my mind. She probably has no idea who I am, realistically. I found out that she recently got married, which I felt really odd about. Mainly just made me feel quite down.

Anyway, I’m too good at rambling.

What I was more trying to touch on was that I’ve only had two really “meaningful” relationships, both since I went to University. The only two girls that I’ve slept with, which I pride myself on, rather than shy away from that fact. Some people react like it’s a bad thing, being a “lad” that has only slept with two girls even though he’s 21. Fuck the guys that react like that though, to be blunt.

Anyway, I’m trying to give a little insight along the way, to give some context to my thinking out loud here. Essentially over a span of almost three years, I had two relationships. In that time, I was cheated on by both of them. I’ve came to the conclusion I’m too nice, but that just makes me think that if I attract girls that want to treat me like this..I’m just going to stay lonely.

Maybe I’m a pessimist. I’m probably just realistic. 

Really recently, a friend that I only met because of my now ex turns out to be the best thing to come out of that failed relationship. She’s the best, and we’re so alike in so many ways, including what we want from our lives. Of course, like any girl that thinks highly of me, or even notices me for that matter. She’s taken, those two are great together. Trying to avoid difficult, uncomfortable conversations with someone you’re so close to is hard. Especially when you both clearly care about each other. Also, distancing myself from being the guy that the girlfriend vents to about their boyfriend. That’s a bad position to get comfortable being in.

Maybe in ten years time I’ll read this and just think “You asshole, you were so lame”. I kinda hope that happens!

It’s just really lonely, I live in Essex now. After University I’m back living with my parents, hours and hours away from where I was born and raised. I don’t know anyone that lives here but my brother and parents. It’s real lonely, I’m still looking for work. I’m totally cut off from anything social, there’s no way of meeting new people at my age that’s not creepy, is there?

I genuinely can’t think of any! It’s real weird, any ideas or experiences similar to hear about would be really interesting to hear.

Anyway, my future can be as bright as I make it. With a little look and perseverance along the way. I’m really good at self deprecation apparently and feel really lonely right now. Soon enough I’ll hopefully be posting about feeling at home here, or having found someone amazing.

But for right now, the future’s an unpainted canvas. Better keep dreaming.